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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries! - National Competition on Worries!
(National Competition on Worries)
Let me introduce you to our today's guests.
- She gave birth to her second baby. - Already?
This is her first TV appearance since then. Kahi!
- Welcome! - Hello, I'm Kahi.
The dogs' president, Kang Hyung Wook.
Hello.
Chung Ha.
(Chung Ha, the rising soloist)
- Kim So Hye. - Kim So Hye.
(Kim So Hye, idol singer and actress)
The handsome comedian, Heo Kyeong Hwan.
(Heo Kyeong Hwan, the handsome comedian)
Hyung Wook, is this really your first time...
- Hello. - on Hello, Right?
Yes, it's my first time here.
Hi. I host "Animal Farm".
(The encounter of the two hosts of animal shows)
- You have a child, right? - Yes, I do.
He's nine months old now.
I heard you were disappointed as your son doesn't resemble you.
He looks just like me.
- Has his face changed? - No. He looks just like me.
Really? Are you sure?
(Ta-da)
His baby is so cute.
- He doesn't look like you. - He looks just like me.
- Your son... - He has my eyes.
Exactly.
He's so cute.
- He'll be cast for TV shows. - Thank you.
Hyung Wook wanted to send us his story...
to come on the show as our guest.
- He wanted to be here that much? - Yes.
It's not that you don't like dogs when you're a dog trainer, right?
I realized it's totally different from training a dog.
My dogs...
- have never touched my flower pots. - I see.
But my son, Joo Woon, plays with dirt in the flower pots.
- Your son does? - Yes. However,
I raised a lot of dogs in my life,
- but I've never experienced it. - It's different.
I don't know what to do.
He can't train a baby.
- She gave birth to her second baby. - That's right.
- It hasn't been long. How... - She looks beautiful.
How long has it been since you gave birth to your second baby?
It's been 70 days.
- 70 days? - Yes.
- You look amazing. - Both are boys.
Chung Ha and So Hye, you two have met Kahi before, right?
- That's right. - I'm so happy to see them again.
- Of course. - When we...
first met Kahi on the TV show,
- she hadn't had her eldest son. - That's right.
- She didn't have her first son? - That's right.
You must be proud of them.
When I first saw Chung Ha on the audition program,
I knew she was incredibly talented.
(She was sure of it.)
I saw her extraordinary charisma.
But So Hye...
Why? What is it?
So Hye found the right path for herself.
You're right.
(She found her career path.)
So Hye is trying to make her debut as an actress.
Yes, I've been studying acting.
And I'm going to play in a drama soon.
Kyeong Hwan, I heard you started learning something new.
Recently, I started training in jiu jitsu.
I started to learn how to do it.
- I'm competing in September. - Really?
But it's not a competition for black belt holders.
Only white belt holders compete against each other.
- It was all over the media. - You must've been taken aback.
People said, "Who are you to do it? You should learn your lesson."
There were a lot of comments like this. The contest...
is about the beginners' challenge.
There are jiu jitsu moves, right?
- Can you show us? - Jiu jitsu moves...
- We'll compare you to Jang Hyuk. - Well...
This is the starting position.
There's no dazzling moves like this.
- Instead, I'll teach you a skill. - Okay.
I'll show you how to escape when a big person is pressing you down.
- Okay. Then I'll help you. - She's big.
(A big person is here.)
I'm the biggest person here.
- All right. Yes. - For example,
a robber with a big physique is pressing you down.
- Press down on here. - Okay. I see.
- All right. Here we go. - Not that way. Hold on a second.
(She lied down.)
(Screaming)
- Gosh. Let me out. - Get out by yourself.
Show me how you escape.
Come on.
(Demonstration is not a problem.)
Tap out.
- My gosh. - He lost.
I never learned jiu jitsu.
I'm still a white belt holder.
(I said I'm a white belt holder.)
I'll try it. Why can't you do it?
I'll show you. Why can't you do it? Press me down.
- You want me to sit on your belly? - Yes. Go ahead.
(He's anxious somehow.)
It's easy. Why can't you do this?
(He falls backward.)
(She pushes him away.)
It's easy.
Right?
(Why can't he do this?)
My goodness.
(It's no joke.)
Show us the keywords please.
Here are the keywords. "Her Hygiene Worries".
"The Two Mothers-in-law". "The Lonely Battle".
"Her Hygiene Worries".
Hello. I'm a mom of two daughters, and I live in Busan.
My eldest daughter,
who is 12 years old, is a very curious child.
"Mom, when I touched the garbage bag,"
"I got some water on my hand. It must be dirty, right?"
- "It's okay. Wash your hand." - She's sensitive.
"However, I touched the sofa with that hand."
"Then the sofa is dirty now, right?"
"No. That's fine."
"However, I touched the sofa after I washed my hand."
"Then my hand is dirty again, right?"
- Do you understand what she says? - My goodness.
When my daughter thinks she touched anything dirty,
she becomes extremely sensitive.
Maybe she thinks germs spread like a contagious disease...
once she touches something dirty.
"My daughter, what are you doing with that wet tissue?"
"I'm cleaning my school bag."
- "Why?" - "I got something dirty..."
"on my clothes yesterday."
"Then I sat on the chair in the academy."
"Then my bag must've touched the chair too, right?"
- "So..." - "Gosh. Stop it. That's enough."
She cleans her things with wet tissues all day long...
and washes her hands so often.
"Mom, can't you stop touching your nose?"
"What if you make other things dirty with your hand?"
"Dad, did you wash your hands? Did you wash them cleanly?"
She makes such a fuss.
I don't know why she's obsessed with cleanliness.
I'm so worried because of my daughter.
Is there any way to resolve the problem?
(Please help my daughter.)
Do any of you guys have a compulsion?
Perhaps like germophobia?
I'm a dog trainer,
but I don't like...
dog smell.
- I see. - What?
- You don't like the smell of dogs? - No.
There's an odor that sick dogs have.
The bad smell comes from their skin.
When I smell that odor,
I become worried the healthy dogs in the same place...
- might get sick too. - I see.
I've had a bad experience.
- That's why. - Yes.
A short track skater was asked about the biggest difficulty...
in short track skating, and he said he gets cold so easily.
He always feels so cold in the skating rink.
- I heard... - It's a true story.
about a rower who gets motion sickness.
These are actual worries people have.
I had to travel by boat for a TV show.
It took four hours to our destination.
- It was... - For fishing anchovies?
It was unbearable. I started to have motion sickness after two hours.
I asked the captain how he rode a boat four hours a day, every day.
Then he asked me not to talk to him as he was feeling sick too.
(It's a big twist.)
- I see. - Even they have motion sickness.
Of course. Now, let's meet the mother who sent this story.
Please come out.
She's coming out.
(Whose daughter is obsessed with cleanliness?)
(Jeon Eon Sil)
Hello.
You look so young. May I ask how old you are?
- I'm 33. - 33?
- Yes. - You look like you're in your 20s.
- You got married in your early 20s. - Yes. That's right.
I once made a joke to compliment someone who looked so young.
I said, "You must've had your child in high school."
Then she said, "Yes, I did."
- I was flustered. - You must've been.
What does your daughter do to keeps herself clean?
First of all, she hates saliva so much.
- I see. - And if she touches...
an unknown substance,
she tends to become extremely sensitive.
In fact, when we touch something sticky,
- we all feel uncomfortable. - It doesn't feel good.
Especially when we don't know what it is.
But normally, that's the extent of it.
However, my daughter thinks that germs can spread...
like a contagious disease.
- She can't stop worrying. - That's right.
Not long ago, the back of her hand...
touched a box, and it was a little wet.
However, she bumped into her sister while going to the washroom.
She thought her sister's clothes got dirty.
Since her sister would touch her clothes...
as she was wearing them.
- So... - It's getting more serious.
she thought all of her sister's stuff got dirty.
She tried to avoid touching anything...
- that her sister uses. - She took it too seriously.
She started to avoid touching her sister's stuff.
The biggest problem...
is that she thinks that once something gets dirty,
it lasts until the next day.
- If she sits on the sofa... - I see.
while wearing dirty clothes...
and sits on the sofa next day, she needs to take a shower.
(Shocked)
She think that the dirtiness moves from place to place.
Yes. She washes her hands at least 20 times a day.
- 20 times a day? - Yes, at least 20 times.
Doesn't that make her hands dry?
Exactly. In winter, her hands became so dry and chapped.
- I have an experience. - It's rare for kids these days.
Her hands turned red and chapped.
Other people thought that I didn't take good care of her.
I bought three bottles of hand cream for her.
But it didn't help.
(My daughter, please don't wash your hands too often.)
Does she take a shower several times a day too?
Yes. If she just took a shower and sits on the sofa,
- she washes up again. - She washes up again.
That's one of the things she does.
It takes her 30 minutes to take a shower.
While taking a shower,
she washes her hands after washing her hair.
She applies body shampoo and then washes her hands again.
- My goodness. - And...
after she rinses her body with water,
- she washes her hands again. - Again?
- She washes her hands on each step. - I see.
She washes her hands 10 times...
while taking a shower.
Does she clean everything when she comes home after school?
- Of course, she does. - What does she clean?
She cleans everything that she thinks is dirty.
She cleans her cellphone more than 10 times a day.
The front, back, sides. When she first cleans it,
because she thinks the phone is dirty,
- she doesn't hold it with hands. - I see.
She wipes it like this.
Then she flips it using wet tissue.
Only when she's done cleaning it, she touches it.
- That's unbelievable. - Does she...
Does she even have time to do her homework, eat,
and meet her friends?
- Exactly. - She must have no free time.
(That's what frustrates me.)
Let's meet her daughter. Hello.
Hello.
- Hello. - She's pretty.
She's pretty.
- She's cute. - Hello.
Do you understand why your mom is worried?
Yes. I think it's a worry.
I think I tend to think too much...
about things that other people also find to be dirty.
Since you arrived here,
how many times did you wash your hands?
I washed my hands once when I went to the restroom.
They still felt dirty, so I washed them once more.
- They still felt dirty. - Yes.
What's the dirtiest thing in the world?
Saliva and food waste.
But you have saliva too.
Mine is fine.
But I don't like another person's.
- You hate it. - Yes.
When you are with your family,
do you never eat...
- from the same bowl? - Right.
- My family is fine. - Your family is fine.
How about your friends?
You could go to a snack bar and share a snack.
It feels less dirty if they are my close friends.
Right. It feels better if she knows where it comes from.
How about a celebrity's saliva?
(Like this.)
How about the saliva of the celebrities you see on TV?
The celebrities you like.
Are you okay with that?
I need to clean it.
(I can't take her to a good restaurant with me.)
When something gets on you, you can just wipe it.
- When you wipe it, - It becomes clean.
- it becomes clean. - Or these days,
you can get hand sanitizers.
If I touch something before washing my hands,
the thing I touch also becomes dirty.
So I have to wash my hands as soon as possible.
What do you like? What makes you feel good when you touch it?
I always eat pizza with my hands.
Hyung Wook, she's a human.
(Come to your senses. She's a human.)
Hyung Wook, she's a human.
Stop.
She's an elementary school student.
She's not a pet.
It's like this. Even dogs...
It's all right. It's your profession.
There are potty pads.
There are puppies that only use it once.
They don't use the same pad twice or three times.
Right. There are puppies.
They always want new ones.
What do you do?
One sheet costs 50 to 70 cents.
- It's expensive. - Right.
Some people cut out the dirty part.
(Doesn't it look new?)
- Using scissors... - My mom does that.
- My mom does that. - They cut out the dirty part.
Those puppies have something in common.
They were potty trained in a harsh way.
(They have the memory of going through a harsh potty training.)
They always got scolded before they did their business.
Perhaps you were harsh on her about her hygiene...
when she was young? Could that be why she's like this?
I did what everyone else did.
I didn't force her into anything.
So it's not her mother's fault.
- I've never done that. - Then...
(What really is the problem?)
Darling, since when did you hate dirty things?
In the beginning of the semester,
my classmate, who sits behind me, kept coughing.
That made me feel like my back was dirty.
Since that time, I've been...
obsessed about being clean.
Was it this year?
The beginning of this semester?
If I say that, my classmate will know.
He might know.
- This year... - Why are you so thoughtless?
You are so simple.
She's very considerate of her classmate.
We all got surprised, didn't we?
- I was really surprised. - She's amazing.
- She's very mature. - She's very considerate.
(She's considerate.)
Did you know about this?
Did you know that it was because of the coughing classmate?
I think that was the decisive influence.
But even when she was younger,
she didn't like saliva.
When her little sibling was born,
she loved the baby, and she wasn't jealous at all.
But at one point, the baby started to drool, when the baby was...
- 8 to 9 months old. - Right. Babies drool.
That's when she started saying,
- "I don't like the baby." - They drool a lot.
"The baby is dirty." "I don't want to play with the baby."
She said those things.
So it's been a long time.
She did that.
Right now, she's even picked up...
- some bad habits. - Like what?
Her hands are always like this.
She always holds her hands like this.
- They might get dirty. - She clenches her fists.
She clenches her fists like this.
When she sits down at the table,
she leans on the table like this. She uses this part to support her.
- My goodness. - It must hurt.
You had to come out here.
When she goes shopping, does she touch the clothes with her fists?
She really does.
- Does she? - One time,
I asked her to hold my bag at a mall.
And she held it like this. She held my bag like this.
She put it on top of her fists.
She thought my bag was dirty.
I will ask you one more thing.
If her dad says, "Come here, my daughter."
- Does she go to him? - Does she hug him?
- Does she hug him? - She does this.
(She's on her guard.)
Very carefully.
She tries hard not to touch her.
He would feel so sad.
Jindo dogs do that.
(There he goes again.)
(Out of nowhere, he mentioned Jindo dogs.)
When you call them, they wouldn't come to you.
Really?
Golden Retrievers run to you when you call them.
But when you call Jindo dogs, they come near you.
When you try to hold them, they avoid your hands.
When you try to hold them, they get away.
That must make you feel bad.
But they stay near you.
Are you saying she's a Jindo dog?
(Is that what he means to say?)
(That's a big problem.)
Let's ask her little sister.
Because you drooled a lot...
when you were little,
she thought you were dirty.
- Did you know about that? - Yes.
She must've drooled a lot too when she was little. Right?
(He tries to make her feel better.)
She says she didn't.
(He fails.)
Did she say she didn't drool when she was little?
Does she remember it?
Right. She thinks she didn't drool.
(He's still dizzy.)
Does your sister keep telling you to wash your hands?
Yes.
I am lazy, but she keeps telling me to wash my hands.
You're lazy to wash your hands.
Does she watch you after telling you that?
Does she check if you are washing your hands?
Does she check your hands?
She follows me.
She follows me into the bathroom and watches me.
Then do you say this every time?
I washed them. Are you happy now?
(He impersonates her little sister.)
Are you happy now?
(It makes her feel good.)
(She's cute.)
I found cat poop...
at the playground with sand.
I pushed it with a shovel,
but she told me to wash my hands.
I pushed it with a shovel,
but she told me to wash my hands.
You pushed it with a shovel.
I pushed it with a shovel.
She's cute. And?
In the end, did you wash your hands or not?
In the end, I washed my hands.
You must feel bad.
She touched it with the shovel.
What do you think about this?
I feel bad. I feel sorry too.
She's too obsessed about being clean.
I realized that this is a worry and that it's serious...
when she asked me to wash her bag.
I asked her why she wanted it to be washed.
And she said her teacher's saliva got on it.
- On her bag? - It was her pencil case.
- A pencil case. - Yes.
It got on her pencil case. After school,
she put it in her bag and came home.
Because she put it in her bag...
Is that what happened?
Because she put the pencil case in her bag,
(He tries to put it together.)
- her bag got dirty too. - Her pencil case was dirty.
Right.
She asked me to ask her bag.
And that made me realize that it's very serious.
I am a country bumpkin from Sacheon of South Gyeongsang Province.
When I was Jung Won's age,
I ate soil while playing with my friends.
Right. That's what you do when you are young.
I told her that despite of all the dirty things I did,
I am very healthy.
I told her about my experiences.
But she doesn't change.
I am so irritated now that I just don't talk to her.
It's better than scolding her and getting into an argument.
You talk less and less...
- with your daughter. - Right.
Jung Won, does he make you sad at all?
He keeps teasing me.
What does he say?
It was dinner time,
and Dad pointed at the part with a box of wet tissue.
And he said, "Sit here. There are wet tissues you love."
- "There are wet tissues you love." - "There are wet tissues you love."
Did you feel bad when he teased you like that?
Mom teases me too.
I felt dirty, so I was cleaning.
But Mom told me to stop cleaning.
I feel more at ease if I wash my hands when they are not at home.
- I see. - Among all the things she's sad,
what made you the saddest?
(What was the saddest thing her mom has said to her?)
She asked me if I was born to give her stress.
My goodness.
(She can't finish the sentence.)
Her mom asked her if she was born to give her stress.
That must've hurt her feelings.
(She...)
(regrets it.)
That must've hurt her feelings.
- She couldn't forget it. - Look at your mom.
Look at her. She's really sorry.
You know that she didn't mean it, right?
At that moment, she meant it.
Why would you say that?
She's got three daughters, and she's got a husband.
I'm sure she didn't mean it.
We were trying to make it seem like she didn't mean it.
At that moment, she was upset.
When you laugh while crying,
something will happen to your body.
(I should be careful too.)
You must've said that a lot. She's crying.
I didn't say it a lot.
It just piled up inside, and it made me sensitive.
- Right. - I couldn't stop...
watching everything she does.
That made me upset.
- At that moment. - Yes.
I asked her why she was so sensitive about things...
that other people don't fuss about.
I asked her if I deserved this...
simply because I am her mother.
You became emotional too.
When I said that,
she said she was sorry and cried.
(I can't watch it.)
Jung Won.
When your mom or dad...
say those hurtful things, there's one reason behind it.
They say those because they are worried that you might...
not be able to mingle with others when you grow up.
They are worried that you might become lonely.
That's what they are worried about,
and that's why they told you those harsh things.
I had a friend I was really close to.
She was drinking soda using a straw.
She didn't like sharing the straw.
- Right. - She asked for my blood type.
(Depending on blood types)
One straw for each blood type?
She asks your blood type. If you're the same blood type as her,
you can use her straw.
- That's cute. - She was like that.
I still remember that.
Even when I have a serious conversation with my friends,
a friend of mine can't stand seeing hair on the floor.
"Today..." Her eyes are on the floor the whole time.
Some people use tape.
- Exactly. - They put it around their hands.
- Even while talking. - Yes.
I complained about it...
(He doesn't stop cleaning.)
In the end, my friend put some tape on her feet.
(Yeong Ja's friend can't stand seeing hair on the floor.)
Because I complained so much.
(How did it go?)
"Okay, Yeong Ja. What happened?"
- Gosh, it bothers me so much. - "Okay, Yeong Ja."
(Her friend might be looking at Yeong Ja, but she's still cleaning.)
Does she think we don't notice it?
As a result, I never felt comforted by her...
and started to avoid her.
It bothers you.
(Yeong Ja started to avoid a friend who was obsessed with cleaning.)
Do you think Jung Won cares too much about being clean?
Yes. At school,
she washes her hands very often. As soon as she comes to school,
she wipes her desk and chair.
Has it ever become a problem...
among friends?
- We had a fight. - You did?
- Why? - That's too bad.
I can't tell you why, but...
- You can't? - Why are kids...
so thoughtful?
I'm much older than her,
- I can't tell you who it was about. - but I'm not as thoughtful as her.
You could say it's just a story.
It's just a story.
There was a girl Jung Won didn't like,
and she passed handouts on to Jung Won.
Jung Won didn't want to touch them and asked me to throw them away.
Do you want to explain?
You can discuss first if you want.
The thing is,
she didn't say why I didn't like that girl.
There was a reason.
She was known...
for being dirty.
So...
- She puts her finger... - You want her to stop?
into her mouth. So Jung Won wanted me to throw away...
the handouts the girl passed on.
I said no, so we had a fight.
At school,
Jung Won must try not to touch things.
She tries not to touch...
other people's things.
Don't kids play clapping games anymore?
We don't.
(Sad ending)
Even my generation didn't.
They played them during the war.
- "During the war". - When you go down the stairs,
shouldn't you hold the handrail?
- She doesn't. - That's dangerous.
You never know what other people touched...
before touching the handrail.
Their hands might have been dirty.
Has your mom, your dad,
or someone else...
ever told you not to touch the handrail because it's dirty?
(Has anyone told her not to touch the handrail?)
- My mom... - Of course.
(Her parents are responsible.)
She often tells me...
- She does? - It always gets out in the end.
- What does she say? - You're partly responsible.
She tells me not to touch the escalator handrails...
because they're dirty.
She said that when you were little?
She says it these days too.
It might be dangerous for kids.
I'd say, "Hold the handrail."
Why did you tell her not to?
I was worried...
- about germs. - She's worried.
The germs can get into your mouth too.
Are there any other things that you don't do because of germs?
When we stay at a guesthouse,
as the dishes are shared with everyone,
I try to bring some from home.
You bring dishes to a guesthouse?
Instead of just washing the ones they have at the guesthouse?
- You bring some from home? - You bring some from home?
I bring spoons, chopsticks, and dishes from home.
Even when you stay at a resort?
Knives and cutting boards too.
What about when you go abroad?
I bring toilet seat covers...
- Toilet seat covers? - Toilet seat covers?
- Toilet seat covers? - I bring disposable ones.
For the kids.
Your daughter must have learned from you.
It runs in the family.
I'm pretty neat too,
but I've never even thought of bringing toilet seat covers.
Her husband must be the one who is suffering the most.
To live with these two...
He must be suffering the most.
"Honey, put the toilet seat cover on!"
If you ever go on another show,
you should mention this in the beginning.
You should have.
I think your daughter has...
- clearly been affected by you. - Why did you do that?
What do you think?
I thought other people did the same.
You seem to go a little overboard.
I got married kind of early.
I hate to hear people say...
I didn't discipline my children well...
because I'm young.
So when Jung Won started to...
understand what I say, I started to tell her,
"People won't like it if you do this."
- You warned her. - "Let's try not to..."
"cause others trouble."
"People might criticize if you do this."
I've said things like that a few times.
(She made sure her daughter didn't cause others any trouble.)
I guess I ended up saying it too many times.
At some point, Jung Won started to say,
"If I do this,"
"will people not like it?"
That was the beginning.
Why did you keep asking your mom?
I didn't want to cause trouble or do something inappropriate.
I don't want others to think I'm weird.
At first,
I just didn't want others to think I was dirty.
But I guess I went too far.
It became a habit.
We asked some experts for advice.
They say that when a child develops an obsessive compulsive disorder,
it is often because of...
genetic factors.
- It's highly likely that... - We're speechless.
one of the parents are sensitive.
Also, many people who are obsessed...
think their problem is not...
very serious.
(It fits perfectly.)
I had no idea.
The only thing I'm worried about is germs.
Jung Won is the same...
in a sense.
(You don't have to feel so bad.)
You need to loosen up first,
and then your daughter might learn from you...
and start to change.
How exactly should I change?
Let me give you an example. Pets...
(Let me talk about pets just one more time.)
When I get a consultation about antisocial pets,
I ask them.
"How close are you to your neighbors?"
They want their pet to get along with others...
while they don't try to get close to their neighbors.
I tell them...
to show their pets that they're close to their neighbors.
It definitely affects their pets too.
I think you shouldn't...
tell your daughter that the world is a scary place.
If you keep telling her not to do something, her world shrinks.
Some things in the world are scary,
but she still has to be a part of this world.
(She has to be a part of this world.)
When you go to a guesthouse,
you can just use the dishes they have there after washing them.
You can also just wipe the toilet seat.
You should touch your friends too.
If you change first, Jung Won will change too.
(Mom should change first.)
What do you like?
Is there a celebrity or a singer you like?
There is, right?
Cha Eun Woo.
- What? - She likes Cha Eun Woo.
- Astro? - Yes.
He's handsome.
(Cha Eun Woo is perfect.)
Doesn't he spit too?
He is known for spitting a lot.
Cha, Cha, Cha Eun Woo.
Hello, I'm Cha Eun Woo.
We prepared something for Jung Won.
Eun Woo, come out.
(No way.)
(Is he here?)
Jung Won, come here.
- It's a CD autographed by Eun Woo. - It's a CD autographed by Eun Woo.
Come here.
Jung Won is coming.
She's so cute.
She's so pretty.
A poster too.
- High five. - Poster.
(Dong Yeob tries to make Jung Won high-five him.)
(Will she?)
A handshake.
High five.
(Jung Won responds.)
(Smiling)
- This has Eun Woo's autograph. - It has...
all the members' autographs.
(Jung Won seems to feel comfortable touching Dong Yeob's hand.)
(Proud)
It was touched by...
all the Astro members.
You're not going to wipe it, are you?
- Good. - The autographs will erase then.
When you go out with your mom and dad,
don't worry too much about getting dirty.
You should become more comfortable with it.
- Promise me. - Give him a stamp too.
Copy. Sign.
Keep your promise.
Then...
To promise...
Give all of us a high five.
- Can you do that? - Yes.
- My hand is sweaty. Is it okay? - Yes.
She's okay.
Here.
(Good manners)
Wipe your hands.
There you go.
Thank you.
- Good job. - Give everyone a high five.
(There are a lot of strangers.)
(Please hold our hands too.)
- High five. - High five.
She's good.
(Everyone's encouragement makes her get more used to it.)
Well done.
There are many good germs too in this world,
like lactic acid bacteria or Kim Tae Gyun.
(It's a dad joke.)
(I never saw that coming.)
Is there anything you want to say to her?
- I am sorry... - My goodness.
for saying harsh things to you.
My goodness.
Actually, I am really thankful...
that you are born as my daughter.
And I am really proud of you.
She's overflowing with love.
Jung Won, you should be...
as good and as healthy you always have been.
I love you.
Jung Won, do you want to say something to your parents?
Mom, Dad,
I am sorry that I gave you a hard time.
Thank you for not hating me.
My goodness.
My gosh.
I love you.
Is it a worry or not?
- Everyone has immunity. - That's right.
Whenever I shared a cup at my gym,
I drank from the part right next to the handle.
- Right. - Some people...
drink it through the handle.
It turned out everyone was drinking from that side.
No matter how fussy you are,
you can't avoid people.
- Right. - I also think...
it's not a worry.
I think it's not a worry.
I would like her to overcome her compulsion,
so I will say it's a worry.
I think it's going to be solved well,
so I think it's not a worry.
I want you to not consider this a worry.
It's nobody's fault. It's your mom's fault.
If you think it's a worry in her mother's perspective,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Stop.
Let's see how many votes she got. Please show the result.
"Her Hygiene Worries".
Is it over 100?
(How many people sympathized about her overly clean daughter?)
- 71. - 71.
(She got 71 votes.)
I will introduce the story titled "The Lonely Battle".
It's all the way from Tongyeong.
We have someone from Tongyeong too.
He's from Tongyeong, isn't he?
- There is... - I am the honorary ambassador.
There's a rumor that you've bought nearly all the lands there.
Don't say such a thing. People will ask me for money.
I won't say it.
You always have to pretend like you don't have money.
There's a role you should play.
Since you are from Tongyeong,
you can play the husband from Tongyeong.
- I will act as the husband. - You are the husband.
It's perfect.
Hello. I am a housewife who has two daughters,
who are 6 and 3 years old.
My family is really close,
except for me.
"Daddy, you are so stylish."
"You are handsome."
"Daddy is handsome."
"Isn't Mom pretty?"
"No."
My first daughter only likes her dad.
And she likes him too much.
"Honey, Daddy will go to work."
"No! Don't go, Daddy,"
- "I'll be back." - "No, Daddy."
Whenever my husband goes to work, she cries.
Even when we are outside,
she doesn't get away from her dad.
That's cute.
"Honey, I told you to tidy up your toys..."
"when you are done playing, didn't I?"
"You are nagging again."
"I will tell Daddy."
The little girl already...
started to ignore me.
"Honey,"
"she doesn't do anything when you are not around."
"It's just that she likes her daddy. What's wrong with that?"
"Are you jealous?"
"How old are you, you punk?"
(He instantly becomes polite.)
How did we end up getting married?
My husband doesn't realize the seriousness at all.
It feels like nobody in this family is on my side.
Please hear me out...
and side with me.
She send us this story.
(Please be on my side.)
- She must've been very lonely. - I know.
How about you, Kahi? Your second child is too little.
- Our second son is too young. - You recently gave birth.
My first child is a son,
and he really likes his dad.
- Really? - When we eat...
He's got his own idea of our family hierarchy.
His dad comes first. I am the second.
And third is his grandmother.
When his grandmother sits next to him and feeds him,
he says, "Go. Go. Mom, come."
He tells me to sit next to him.
But if his dad comes while I am feeding him,
- he tells me to go away. - That would make you feel sad.
He says, "Daddy. Daddy."
- His dad ranks first. - How do you feel?
I feel really sad. I say,
"Your father is here. Come and work."
And I leave.
She came here because she is very lonely.
Please welcome her with a round of applause.
(Who is worried about her daughter who only cares about her dad?)
I am from Tongyeong, the city with a beautiful sea.
I am the mother of two.
I am Cho Ah Hye.
- Is your name... - "Cho Ah Hye"?
- "Cho Ah Hye"? - Yes.
Your name is beautiful.
It's unique, isn't it?
Are you worried that...
your first daughter only cares about her dad?
My first daughter is six.
She only follows her dad.
Even when my husband has appointments with his friends,
because the child keeps trying to go with him,
he takes her with him.
- Really? - She wants to be with him.
She wants to do everything with her dad.
But he comes home quite late.
His work begins at 5pm. When he comes home,
- it's around 3am or 4am. - She stays up until then?
She pinches her eyes to stay awake.
- She does that to herself? - She does those things.
She does that to wait for her dad.
I feel bad seeing that,
and it really worries me.
I understand that she likes her dad.
But it's too much.
Her kindergarten teacher tells me that she's worried about it.
When she goes to kindergarten, she dozes off. She gets tired.
She can't do any activities.
"Ma'am, please let her sleep." They would tell me that.
But what can I do? She doesn't sleep.
- She pinches her eyes. - She pinches her eyes to stay up.
She's addicted to her dad.
I heard you work as well.
I do. I work too.
I have to wait for him too.
So I get too tired the next day.
We will show you how much she's obsessed with her dad.
(The proof is revealed.)
Oh, dear.
(She pesters him not to go.)
My goodness.
He's trying to leave.
(She cries.)
(She's wailing.)
- That's every day, right? - Yes.
It's 2am.
- My goodness. - It's 2am.
Is she waiting for her dad?
- Chae Won. - Yes?
What are you doing?
I am washing my face.
It's 2:30am right now.
I am not going to sleep. I'm going to wait for Daddy.
- She's doing that to stay awake. - Goodness.
She must be the second child.
- It's 4am. - 4am?
(She sighs.)
What is it?
Daddy is home.
It was past 4am.
She's running.
My goodness.
- Oh, dear. - She's so cute.
(Daddy!)
My goodness.
- She's happy. - She's excited.
- Oh, dear. - Come here.
That's crazy.
Her husband must be happy because he's so welcomed.
- But what will the children do? - I know.
How long has she been like this?
It began when she was around three.
It began when she started to learn to express her opinion.
Her first word was "Dad".
Her first sentences were "You're great, Dad." "You're handsome, Dad."
- He must be really handsome. - Is he really handsome?
(She hesitates.)
There's a man we suspect to be her husband.
When I said this, he suddenly dropped his head.
He's handsome.
But it's not like he's unbelievably handsome.
Right.
It's something that can happen.
Is it not that you are just being jealous?
Actually, I teach music...
to pre-school and kindergarten children.
You are a music teacher.
Children must love you.
They really love me.
"You're here." "You are so beautiful."
"You are fun."
They praise me in all kinds of ways.
- She's beautiful. - She's a music teacher.
- Why? - She is very beautiful.
I am so sorry.
You are beautiful.
"I am so sorry."
But whenever I come home, I am not wanted.
The kids only like their dad.
So I thought perhaps I have a problem as a mother.
I seriously thought about that. One day,
- I even cried. - Really?
Have you not talked to your husband about this?
I have. But he said, "Why is this a problem?"
- "Are you jealous?" - He said it today.
Even if they are not sleeping until late hour, he's fine wit hit.
He always lets them whatever they want to do.
The children only like him.
(They keep looking for their dad.)
Let's meet her husband.
We're about to introduce him,
and it seems like he still doesn't know why you're here.
Hello, sir.
- Hello. - It's nice to see you.
I watched you listening to the story.
You seemed to not understand it.
I think all parents go through this phase.
Honestly, I can't understand why we are here.
Do you really think the children only like you?
Like what my wife said,
they tell me I am great and handsome.
Right.
I am sorry.
- They say that a lot. - They are very similar.
(They have something in common.)
When your daughters show you affection, you feel good, don't you?
(He sighs.)
I love it. I love it, but...
- Of course. - I love it, but...
usually my restaurant closes around 4am.
It closes very late.
And I have to travel from Jinju to Tongyeong,
and that takes about an hour.
You work in Jinju.
Sometimes, I go home watching the sun rise.
My goodness. It must be tiring.
And I have to play with the girls until 6 or 7am.
My wife should put them to bed.
(My wife should put them to bed.)
(Is he blaming his wife?)
- It's not easy. - It doesn't go...
- as you want. - It's not easy.
Are you blaming your wife?
As you saw in the video, the children don't go to bed...
no matter what your wife does.
How does she work as a teacher if she can't control them?
(The audience gets annoyed.)
She teaches them music, not puts them to bed.
(Glaring)
(She is the only one on her dad's side.)
I have tried to put my son to bed for two hours,
- but he refuses to sleep. - It's like that.
He simply refuses to sleep.
Even when you could get upset...
from hearing him blame his wife,
please refrain from saying, "He needs to die."
(Don't pick on my dad.)
Isn't childrearing easier...
since your husband plays with the children?
He only plays with them.
"They pooped. Change their diapers."
He doesn't even do simple chores...
like taking out the trash. He says he has no time to help.
Have you never changed a diaper?
I have done it for my first daughter.
I have also done it for my second daughter.
- You don't sound confident. - I guess he didn't do it often.
- Seriously. - I change the diaper when they pee.
(That's no excuse.)
How about the chores? You don't even take out the trash.
I do take out the trash.
She said you don't do it.
Well,
when did I take out the trash? Let me think.
Is he asking himself?
When did I take out the trash?
- I don't do it often. - I see.
- Let's talk to the daughter. - How pretty!
Hello.
- Hello. - How pretty!
- She takes after her dad. - What's your name?
Lee Chae Won.
Chae Won.
Do you know why you are here today?
Because I like my dad too much.
(She does know.)
Is your dad cool?
Yes.
What's the coolest about your dad?
- His face. - I see.
(Smiling)
She is blinded by love.
Seriously.
Isn't your mom cool? Isn't your mom pretty?
- Is your mom pretty? - She is sighing.
She is a little bit pretty.
(Sad)
She is a little bit pretty.
She is smart. She read the atmosphere...
and realized that she should say nicer things.
Did your mom upset you...
in any ways?
She upset me when I played with paper dolls.
- Paper dolls? What happened? - What did she do?
(What happened?)
- Don't cry. It's okay. - It's okay.
- Paper dolls. - It looks like...
- her mom upset her very much. - Seriously.
- Don't cry. - I really want to know.
Did the paper dolls get ripped?
Let's hear the story from her mom.
I want her to clean up after she has finished playing.
However, the paper dolls were all over the floor.
"Aren't you going to clean them up? Should I throw them away?"
- Your words... - They upset her.
It seems that way.
(Pouting)
Do the memories...
- She is crying. - Chae Won.
- My goodness. - My goodness.
(She must have been very upset.)
[VIU Ver] E379 Hello Counselor "Listening to What the Other Says" -♥ Ruo Xi ♥-
Is Chae Won emotional?
Is she crying because her dad is here?
She is emotional, but I think she is being that way...
because she knows her dad will comfort her...
by her side.
My husband sides with her a lot.
"Chae Won, I hope you wouldn't eat snacks on the bed."
"Don't do that."
My husband goes, "Let her be. You are nagging again."
Because my husband sides with our daughters,
they go, "Stop nagging at me."
- They talk like their dad. - Yes.
- They learned it from their dad. - They think...
I am weak. They think their dad is the king.
They think it's natural...
to look down on me.
It's bad for them.
Did you know that the children talk back to your wife?
Yes. When Ah Hye tells them to wake up and wash up,
they go, "All right. Stop nagging."
I heard it when I was half asleep. I smiled...
- because it was so cute. - Goodness.
(My goodness.)
You shouldn't do that.
(It's not the time to do that.)
Why do you continue to side with your daughter?
My wife shows favoritism.
- What? - She shows favoritism too much.
(What is this about?)
(She always yells at me.)
I go, "Let's do it together next time."
"Let's do this."
However, she orders them around. "Don't do that."
"Why did you do that?"
It's not favoritism. The younger one is three years old.
A six-year-old should understand what I say,
but she wants to do everything...
like her sister.
Since we use different methods...
of raising children,
he looks down on me. "What do you know about anything?"
It hurts my feelings.
- Of course it does. - That's why...
we couldn't reach an agreement.
- Seriously. - You couldn't reach an agreement.
The method of education isn't the problem here.
The parents should respect and love each other...
in front of the children.
Without that, even the best method of education...
would be useless.
Letting the children see their mom respect their dad...
and their dad respect their mom...
is the best education.
It looks like Chae Won understand everything.
When we talk about her mom,
she looks fine. When we talk about her dad,
she glares at us.
(Glaring)
- She is smart. - She is smart, right?
Sir, this isn't the time to smile.
Did you really say,
"What do you know?"
Did you really say that to your wife?
Really?
- Why? - In front of the children?
It looks like he did.
- My goodness. - Answer the question.
Does he have a temper?
Yes. When he is in a bad mood,
he gets mad excessively.
- To whom does he get mad? - The children.
There is no consistency.
There is no consistency. The thing is,
he also gets mad at me.
- It happens often. - What does he do?
You should give yourself a chance...
to reveal everything.
She is too careful. She is too worried.
- She can't do it at home. - Can she say...
what's on her mind?
Yes.
(Annoyed)
Say what's on your mind.
When my dad goes,
"Why don't you treat Ah Hye right?"
He goes, "When haven't I treated her right?"
(My goodness.)
- He gets mad. - He said that to his father-in-law.
When I was pregnant with Chae Yi,
I was in my last trimester,
but my husband always came home late.
"Why did you come home late on your day off?"
He said he went hiking,
but he came home at 2am.
Who goes hiking at that hour?
- It must have been a high mountain. - It made no sense.
"You didn't go hiking at this hour."
I raised my voice.
When I did that, he shoved my stomach.
Did he do that when you were pregnant?
Yes.
(How could he do that when she was pregnant?)
He said, "Stop it. I don't want to hear it."
- My goodness. - When I think about that,
my heart aches.
- You won't forget it. - You won't forget it.
Do you find it hard to voice your complaints...
because he looks intimidating?
I often keep my mouth closed.
Your problem doesn't come from the daughters,
but the lack of conversation between you and your husband.
It's the couple's business.
I don't know how hard the shove was,
but did you really do that to her?
I don't remember what happened.
After the hike, my friends went, "We came this far."
- "Let's go for a drink." - Yes.
Your wife was in her last trimester.
I came home quietly.
If no one aggravates me, I go to sleep.
Your violent tendency is the problem.
You shouldn't become violent even if someone aggravates you.
She nagged at me.
I had gone hiking to relieve my stress,
but she made it worse.
It sounds like you remember everything...
other than the shove.
Hearing her retell the story made me remember...
that much.
Do you often lose your temper?
If no one aggravates me first...
(If no one aggravates me first...)
(Are you kidding me?)
Even if someone does aggravate you, you should keep calm.
- That's what a good man does. - If you are human,
you should be able to endure.
- Seriously. - I suppress my anger to my best.
Do you feel bad?
If I did that, I feel bad.
- "If I did that"? - That's right.
- You don't remember. - No.
This is frustrating.
- This is frustrating. - Only the victim remembers.
So today... Kahi, you must be angry.
- I am so angry. - Which part made you mad?
Ah Hye wants to have a warm meal with her husband.
However, he comes home late every single day.
She understands that he works hard outside.
It's hard to work and earn money.
She must be very angry. She keeps speaking casually.
(She keeps speaking casually.)
The children need to sleep, but they refuse to go to bed.
However,
her husband goes, "It's your fault for failing to put them to bed."
It must drive her up the wall.
- What does he want her to do? - Right.
Kahi is very angry.
"What does he want her to do?"
- Her words are disorganized. - The girls only like their dad...
because he coddles them and looks down on their mom.
- That's right. - The girls copy their dad.
(The dad's behaviors are the cause.)
An acquaintance's insight can be accurate.
The couple's acquaintances are here. Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
Please introduce yourself.
I am his former colleague who teaches PE to children.
- You teach PE to children. - We are both PE teachers.
What is Ah Hye's husband like among his acquaintances?
He rarely loses his temper in front of his acquaintances.
Because we have a get-together often,
I have witnessed their fight once or twice.
- You have witnessed it. - You saw...
- Chae Won's mom and dad fight. - I saw him...
swear at his wife.
As you can see, he is a big man.
I think his wife would be intimidated...
even if he loses his temper just a little bit.
You shouldn't use force to intimidate others.
Judging from what he said,
you must have had fights in front of the girls.
He works in Jinju while our house is in Tongyeong.
There was a time we met only on the weekends.
When she saw her dad on the weekend,
she said, "I thought you had gotten a divorce."
- Who said that? Chae Won? - Chae Won said that.
(Seeing her parents fight gave her that thought.)
(My heart aches.)
She said that when she was five years old.
The younger one is three years old. She doesn't know, does she?
When she feels that her parents are fighting,
she hugs me tightly...
- as if she wants me to stop. - They know everything.
Yes. When that happens,
I feel regretful.
Chae Won, would you answer this big sister's question?
- Okay. - "Big sister" part startled her.
Auntie.
- Auntie. - Auntie.
(I can't believe them.)
Chae Won, have you seen your parents fight a lot?
(Nodding)
- Goodness. - Were you scared?
(I am sorry.)
(Were you scared?)
How do you feel when your parents fight?
I feel bad.
You feel bad.
Do you want your parents to stop fighting?
I want them to stop fighting.
- Would you be happy then? - Yes.
(I would be happy if they stop fighting.)
Does your dad scare you sometimes?
Yes.
When does your dad scare you the most?
When he fights with my mom.
Her dad scares her when he fights.
It must be very scary.
In that case,
do you show act cute and smile at your dad...
and play with your dad...
because he scares you?
(Nodding)
(Surprised)
What?
(That can't be the case.)
What?
(Chae Won, is that true?)
Your dad scares you.
Sir, don't look at her.
Do you play with your dad...
and stay awake until he comes home...
because you don't want your scary dad to scold you?
Yes.
My goodness.
(The truth is shocking.)
(They thought she simply enjoyed playing with her dad.)
(She had chosen to be that way because she was afraid.)
How does that make you feel?
(To Chae Won, her dad is the source of fear.)
She sided with the stronger person in order to survive.
That's exactly what this is.
(How Chae Won really feels...)
(makes her heart ache.)
Is this the first time she has said that?
When she saw the two of you fight,
she probably didn't know what to do.
- She came up with a way to survive. - That's why...
- you mustn't fight before a child. - That's right.
Experts say that...
the fear a child feels in that moment...
rivals the fear you feel in the battlefield during a war.
I am very surprised.
It's understandable.
Right now,
I don't know what to do.
I feel like I have lost my way.
- You can improve. - It's nothing complicated.
Don't fight in front of the children.
Chae Won might want to see her dad...
side with her mom...
when she gets scolded.
That's right.
It must have been hard...
to watch you fight.
Ah Hye's husband admitted for the first time...
that he doesn't know what to do.
As a teacher, what do you suggest he does?
I think the two of them need to have a lot of conversations.
I think they already think,
"Talking doesn't get us anywhere."
- They already think that way. - Right.
When one talks, the other should listen.
That's right. You need to listen.
This entire ordeal must be hard...
for Ah Hye's husband as well.
You never had a chance to reveal what's inside your heart.
- You should tell us. - That's right.
We have only dated for six months before we got married.
My wife is driven.
She became pregnant, too.
I was a PE teacher,
and I also own a barbecue restaurant.
You worked hard.
- You worked hard. - I live diligently,
but she never tells me, "Thank you for your hard work."
- Is it true? - I know that he lives diligently,
but who looks after the children...
and cleans the house...
while he is working?
I work harder.
Is that what you want to hear as well?
Yes. He never tells me, "Thank you for your hard work."
"It must be hard to raise the children."
Can't you do it first?
Can't he do it first?
Can't you do it first?
- Both of you feel the same. - This is funny.
Seriously.
You are the driven one who made him marry you.
It's not hard...
to say those words.
Kyeong Hwan, let's show them.
Let's go.
- Thank you for your hard work. - This is really sudden.
Thank you for living with me.
Thank you for your hard work.
- You have no hard feelings, right? - Right.
- Let's go to sleep. - Okay.
(Amicable)
(Laughing)
It's easy.
You should try it.
- Do you want to hear it first? - It's lie that men...
from Gyeongsang Province are taciturn.
Men are chatty when they are together.
It's hard to get a word in.
Instead of using words, I bought her a ring.
- I bought her flowers, too. - They are meaningless.
She didn't thank me once.
She thinks words are more meaningful.
Words are important.
Chae Won will be delighted.
- You should do it first. - Show your daughter.
If you express your love,
Chae Won will feel more grounded and happy.
Chae Won, do you want your parents to get along?
- Yes, you do. - Do you want that?
- Yes. - Okay.
Be a cool man.
(Dad, please pluck up your courage.)
- Go ahead. - Call her name.
Cho Ah Hye.
(Smiling)
(I didn't expect this side from my dad.)
She has a lovely name.
Her name is pronounced like, "I like you."
It's important to have a good name.
You are working hard to raise the children.
You should look her in the eye.
(Awkward)
Well,
thank you for your hard work.
Now that you are at it, you should apologize.
- You shoved her stomach. - You feel bad.
When she was pregnant.
I sincerely apologize.
- "I love you." - Cho Ah Hye,
I will love you more from now on.
(Smiling)
- That was good. - He took the first step.
(It's time for Ah Hye to take a step.)
It's your turn.
Thank you so much...
for saying what's in your heart.
I love you. Thank you always.
Thank you for your hard work.
"Thank you for your hard work."
Chae Won feels awkward...
because she has never seen her parents do this.
She sat up.
Chae Won, are you happy to see your parents tell each other...
- "I love you"? - Yes.
How big is your happiness? This big? This big?
It's as big as the universe.
Her happiness is as big as the universe.
(She desperately wants her parents to get along.)
(So that Chae Won won't feel sad again,)
(Mom and Dad will work hard to change.)
(Let's live happily from now on.)
Is there anything you want to say to your parents?
Mom and Dad, I love you.
- Do you love your mom? - Yes.
- Do you love your dad? - Yes.
- Do you love them equally? - Yes.
Okay.
She loves them equally.
That's good to hear.
Let's start with Gyeong Hwan.
Do you think it's a worry?
I am an honorary ambassador of Tongyeong,
but I didn't know about this problem.
Didn't you know about it?
I know most people's problems, but...
You should have stepped in.
Since it was a big worry,
- I will press the button. - You think it's a worry. Kahi.
Marriage is all about making the effort.
I hope the two of you will continue to make the effort.
I have something I want to say to Chae Won.
- You have great parents. - Of course.
They will make the effort so that you will be happy.
I'm sure it's a worry.
I think it's a worry.
I remember my parents fighting...
more than they were angry at me.
Even now,
I feel happier...
- when they are sweet... - Of course.
than being nice to me.
- That's the conclusion. - Right.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Stop.
I think it's Chae Won's big picture.
I know.
She worked on it for two years...
to be here.
(Chuckling)
Please show us the result.
(The result)
(The last digit is 6.)
I think it's over 100 votes.
(It looks like it's over 100 votes.)
How many?
What?
(156 votes)
The title is "The Two Mothers-in-law".
Don't you feel suffocating already just from hearing it, ladies?
(Women agree.)
I'm a woman in 50s with a sad life.
There's nothing I can do...
on my own at home.
When I make dinner,
"Why is meat so tough?"
"I told you to use olive oil instead of cooking oil."
Really?
Is she my mother-in-law? No.
They're my 23 and 24-year-old daughters.
(Two daughters)
(Sighing)
"I'm going out to meet my friends."
"Is that what you're going to wear outside?"
"Think about other people. Go get changed."
I must get a permission from my daughters to leave.
"Are you eating again?"
"Look at yourself. You should take care of yourself."
How dare you.
(I should teach them a lesson first.)
"Mom. Go look in the mirror."
"There's no time for a break. 100 squats. Go."
"If you're done, let's go bike riding."
"You're going to start swimming from next month."
Are they trying to be my manager or something?
I can't even rest or eat as I want.
Please get me out of this agony.
(Please get me out of this agony.)
Does anyone nag at you?
I have this one habit.
My wife must go to sleep...
"My wife must go to sleep."
I love eating late at night.
I can't eat when she's up.
After I check my wife sleeping,
- You're scared of your wife. - I go out to eat.
That's what I do.
Does she manage your weight?
My face gets puffy.
A mother of two daughters is worried due to her daughters.
Let's meet her.
(Who's the guest stressed out by her two daughters?)
(Park Geum Yeob)
Welcome.
(Welcome.)
You're not fat at all.
You have no weight to lose.
Why did your daughters nag at you so much?
Did your daughters check this outfit?
Yes.
- She's beautiful. - In case I look fat.
Not at all. Is that why you're wearing all black?
Yes.
Is that what you wanted or your daughters?
I just follow what my daughters say.
She just puts up with them.
It's not just a day or two.
It's like living with two mothers-in-law.
(They're mothers-in-law, not daughters.)
"What's that are you wearing?" "What's wrong with your shoes?"
"What's that bag?" They nag at me about everything.
Yet they don't buy you anything.
Exactly.
(That makes me angry.)
That startled me.
(Buy her something before you nag.)
Didn't they get worse...
before you came here?
I actually skipped dinner in last few days.
- You skipped meals for a few days? - Dinner.
- Just dinner? - When we have a meal,
they are very strict...
about what I can eat.
The first thing I do when I'm up...
- is steaming sweet potatoes. - Sweet potatoes?
I only get two spoonfuls of rice for lunch in a kid's bowl.
Many people tell you not to eat...
after 6pm.
(She doesn't understand.)
Kyeong Hwan lives in my house.
We have one in every flavor.
- Chicken breast. - Yes.
You're my customer.
That's why Kyeong Hwan lives in her house.
I have one for the 1st daughter, and one for the 2nd daughter.
- It's in the freezer. - Chicken breast?
They manage their weight thoroughly.
I look like I have no self-control...
because I can't do that as their mother.
- You also exercise. - I know.
After my children work out with their personal trainer,
they force me to do it.
They do that.
I don't know what it's called,
they tell me to get in a push up position.
- I do that for a minute. - That one.
- Like a plank? - Yes.
My second daughter forces me to stretch...
after learning Pilates.
She has two trainers.
(She has two trainers.)
Have you ever ridden a bicycle for over 20km?
- 20km? - Yes.
- You ride for over 20km at night? - How far did you go?
From the end of Anyangcheon to Haengju Bridge,
or from Anyangcheon to Yeouido...
for once or twice.
- From Anyang? - After riding it for a long time,
- my butt hurts. - Yes.
I told them I don't want to ride it because my butt hurts,
then they got me something that looks like underwear.
- There's a butt gear. - Yes.
They ordered it for me to put it on.
(Thank you, my good daughters.)
Right.
(Thank you, my good daughters.)
How long has it been since you did this?
5 or 6 years.
(Goodness.)
- It's not something new? - No.
(Exclaiming)
Let's meet her daughters.
- Let's see how slim they are. - I know.
Hi, girls.
(Two daughters who are worse than mothers-in-law)
- Hello. - Hi.
I'm sorry, but can you stand up please?
Yes. Get up.
- They're slim. - They're slim.
They're slim.
I wondered how slim they are...
to nag at her so much.
- They're very slim. - Yes.
Your mother thinks it's a worry. What do you think?
I've never thought it was a worry.
I thought she'd be grateful.
- She help her control it. - Right.
She got her own managers.
I thought it was a good thing.
(Sighing)
Do you think...
your mom needs to be on a diet?
I thought my mom was chubby.
- I hope she loses 10kg. - 10kg?
(Shocking)
She's very skinny if she loses 10kg now.
- 10kg is very hard. - That's too extreme.
There are...
dangerous sizes,
but she's nothing close to it.
We're also on diets.
When I see my mom eats something,
- You want to eat too. - it also makes us want to eat.
She's also addicted to carbohydrate.
She buys 30 dollars' worth of bread.
- That's a lot. - Yes.
There's no one to finish it.
We have to finish it otherwise it goes to a waste.
I told her let's stop eating and exercise together to lose weight.
I love rice cake and bread.
- Rice cake and bread? - Yes.
- Now, - They're good.
I love custard cream bread.
That's very good.
- It's critical. - Lately,
people go on bakery tours.
I want to try custard cream bread...
from famous bakeries,
but I know they'll nag at me when I go home,
so I only buy a loaf of bread for 2.5 dollars.
I love peanut butter.
Peanut butter is good.
I apply three spoonfuls...
of peanut butter on a piece of bread.
- I scoop this much. - That's too much.
- I have to put 2 pieces of bread. - 2 pieces.
They tell me to eat only half of it.
- Reduce it. - Yes.
(They tell me to eat only half of it.)
Your mom needs strength now that she's old.
She could exercise less.
- I never thought it was too much. - What?
I love walking around getting sunshine.
I love riding a bicycle at 2 or 3pm...
in shorts and sleeveless t-shirt.
I asked my mom to join me.
It's a good way to get sunlight and lose weight.
She was startled.
Can you come up to the stage...
and show how you exercise your mother?
(Let see...)
(how they do it.)
The first one is squat.
We're going to squat.
- Stand with your shoulder length. - She's already doing it.
She's been doing that every day.
She's accurate.
- As if you're sitting on a chair. - This is hard.
Breathe in.
As if you're sitting on a chair, breathe in.
- Breathe out as you get up. - You look good, ma'am.
Her knees shouldn't come forward, right?
Her knees shouldn't come out. Move your butt, Mom.
Right. Her knees should go out more than her feet.
- No. - That's not right.
(This isn't right.)
- She has small feet. - Strain your butt.
Only people who do it often can...
Breathe as you come up.
(Graceful 1 on 1 training)
Everyone's doing good.
She looks very serious because she's done it all the time.
Come up as you breathe.
Do you do this often?
Yes. We usually do it 100 times.
100 times?
We do it 100 times.
(I'm 50 years old, and I do 100 of these.)
- Planking. - Yes.
- Planks are... - Yes.
She does it automatically.
- I don't do it. - You have to be in this position.
- After that... - This is a hard one.
Have you ever done this before, Chung Ha and So Hye?
- I've done it a lot. - But it's been such a long time.
It's been such a long time.
She's already doing that alone.
It's very difficult to stay that way.
- Tighten your stomach. - Tighten your stomach.
- She's very good. - She's keeping her stance.
You start trembling after 10, 20 seconds.
- It's hard. - Her hips went up.
- Keep it straight. - So Hye.
- So Hye, do you want a nice body? - Lift your head up.
(Yes.)
(Of course.)
So Hye, lower your hips more.
This is an advanced plank exercise.
(Please stop. Don't do that to me.)
Chung Ha is good.
- She hasn't given up yet. - She's so good.
- She's holding the position well. - Right.
- How long will she go on? - Exactly.
- She's good. - Right.
She held the position well.
(I'm exhausted.)
(She must be tired.)
(This is how I live.)
Do you exercise like this every day?
No. I can't do it every day because I don't have time.
- How many times a week? - They take turns.
(Her daughters train her in turns.)
She does home workouts one day and Pilates the next day.
But that's not all.
After I ride a bicycle for three hours,
- You exercise more. - I'm already sweaty.
- That's right. - But...
- I'm not allowed to take a shower. - My goodness.
I have to work out in the heat without air-conditioning.
- I worked out like that. - In the living room?
- Yes. - So that you will sweat more?
That's right. I said I couldn't do it because it was too hot,
and it was too hard.
Then they bought a swim suit for me...
and told me to exercise in water, so I wouldn't feel hot.
So I decided to swim instead.
(An extra exercise has been added.)
Do your daughter nag you to do anything else?
- They nag me to study. - To study?
- To their mom? - They tell you to study?
- Yes. - The roles have been reversed.
Why do they nag you to study?
I'm a math teacher.
- I see. - She's a teacher.
As I've aged,
it's not as easy to study as it used to be before.
When I...
rest at home watching TV,
they tell me to study English instead of watching TV.
- Their roles have been reversed. - Exactly.
(Who is the mom? Who is the daughter?)
What else do they tell you to study?
They told me to learn another language other than English.
They told me to learn Spanish as it's used...
in 40 countries.
- They nagged me. - That'd be great.
They also said I should learn to speak Japanese...
if I want to travel to Japan.
- "Welcome." - "How much is it?" is enough.
- "How much is it?" - "How much is it?"
(She knows the expression she needs for a trip.)
My younger daughter signed me up...
for an online lecture.
- She signed her mom up for a class. - "An online lecture"?
My goodness.
I feel so tired when I go home after work,
but they force me to study.
Exactly.
Whenever I watch the online lecture,
she probably receives a notification message.
- She checks if you watch it. - Yes.
Sometimes, she texts me to say...
- she knows I didn't watch it. - That's scary.
If it's that hard, why didn't you say,
"You may not know, but in fact, I..."
(You may not know, but in fact, I...)
"But in fact, I'm forbidden from leaving the country."
(I'm forbidden from leaving the country.)
(Dong Yeob, the genius)
(That's a good idea.)
Why do you make your mom study?
Why do you want to improve your mom?
I found learning fun.
I thought my mom thought the same.
Also, she's a math teacher,
but learning a new language helps to prevent Alzheimer's disease...
and maintain brain function.
That's why I suggested it to my mom.
But I can't study every single day.
You don't take exams, at least.
- I do take exams. - You take exams?
(Unbelievable)
- You take exams? - Yes.
Are there exams on the online lecture?
No. My daughter gave me the exam paper when I came home.
It looks like a dissertation.
So this... You have to read and comprehend this?
You have to read and comprehend this?
(The paper is filled with English words.)
(Reading comprehension questions)
(What?)
(That looks so difficult.)
- Why would you give her a test? - Exactly.
I made the exam paper by myself for the first time.
- So I tested it on her. - I see.
And she did a good job. I thought she was following well.
So I give her a new exam paper every week.
The exam is also very long.
I have work to do,
but she said I could do it...
whenever I get a chance.
- Nevertheless, you do it, right? - Yes, I do.
(I'm afraid of my daughters.)
However, I believe it's a good opportunity...
to have a conversation with us, her daughters.
These days, people don't talk to their families often.
If we share common interests,
we can talk more often.
But your mother isn't interest in it.
- Pardon me? - She's not interested in it.
She likes bread.
You could watch her favorite show with her...
or eat 30 dollars' worth of bread with her.
Why haven't you tried it?
That's not a productive activity.
Actually...
That's all I've been doing in my life.
She's still doing the same.
I always think that I can sleep as much as I want when I die.
So I try to live my life to the fullest.
- I don't force my mom do that much. - "When you die"?
- That's unbelievable. - We think she can manage it.
- They think you can manage it. - She's like my old self.
- To the other After School member. - I see.
- They said they were sick of you. - You were trying to help them.
You're out of touch with them, right?
- Well, I... - "She's out of touch with them"?
thought I was right.
(She believed only her opinions were right.)
I didn't think it was too much time to spend on practicing.
I thought, "Why is it hard?"
I forced my opinions on them.
However, my thoughts have been changed completely.
People are different.
- She's right. - Even your family members...
- are different from each other. - She's absolutely right.
The two of you thought you were communicating with her,
but actually, you weren't.
You should've listened to your mom.
That's right.
(They have a lot on their minds.)
Honestly, I think it's hard to see daughters like them.
- Of course. - They worry about you a lot...
- and are very affectionate for you. - Exactly.
It may seem nice to you,
but when they treat me like that,
I wonder if they look down on me sometimes.
- Of course. - They didn't ask your opinion.
- It's understandable. - Instead, they forced...
- their opinions to you. - Yes.
I don't understand why they sound like...
they look down on me when they speak to me.
- They always say, - Oh, dear.
"Don't lie down like that."
"Stop watching TV. Do some study instead."
"You worry me like a little child at waterside."
They say things like that in front of our relatives too.
They speak like that in front of other people?
- Sometimes. - You must've been embarrassed.
(That's not right.)
In fact, the year before last,
my mom rode a bicycle alone.
I was outside home, and I got a call from the emergency center.
- From the emergency center? - Yes.
- She had an accident while cycling. - Oh, no.
She injured her head severely and had some stitches.
- Really? - She had a car accident...
2 or 3 times and was diagnosed with a concussion...
- three times. - Oh, gosh.
You should listen to your daughters.
- So... - Just listen to your daughters.
Then why did you make her...
ride a bicycle for 22km?
I thought she'd be okay since I was with her.
She tried to help her improve,
so she wouldn't fall again.
- Although it sounds weird. - Tell us honestly.
Is it hard for you to trust your mom?
Is your mom clumsy?
What's the reason?
After the accidents, I couldn't let her do anything alone...
because I felt so worried.
I feel like I should do everything with her.
(She took care of her mom like a little child.)
My mother passed away,
but I still remember how she looked on the table.
I wanted to make sure she tries all the delicious food.
So I said, "Mom, try this one too."
I put side dishes on her spoon.
Suddenly, she put down her spoon loudly and said,
"Leave me alone, so I can eat what I want."
Right. She had her own preferences.
(Even family members have different preferences.)
I still remember that.
My mother ate what she was craving and ate with a gusto.
But I just wanted to pick up food for her.
I think it's a similar case.
- They feel the same. - Yes.
I want to enjoy my favorite food whenever I crave it.
Rice, bread, or rice cake.
I want them to let me eat it whenever I want.
- My goodness. - That's a very small wish.
So we're going to serve you your favorite food...
right here in the studio.
Rice cake and bread.
Here comes the table!
(Here is a feast for her.)
- We prepared this for you. - Right.
Ma'am, when you eat delicious food...
- Why are you sitting there? - I mean...
- Why did you come here? - Why?
- How dare you? - You're not her daughter.
I came here to do some exercises.
(I came out to exercise.)
She moved right away.
Let's ask her daughter first.
Can your mom eat this?
- Let's not even ask them. - Exactly.
- Ma'am. - The eldest daughter.
She can exercise after eating it.
My goodness.
- I'll be your daughter today. - Okay.
I'll play the roles of both of your daughters.
Here's peanut butter.
Ma'am, I'll...
She looks so excited.
That's a lot of peanut butter.
- Look at that. - So Hye.
- Do you eat this for breakfast? - Yes.
- My goodness. - But this is a creamy one.
- It's not a crunchy one. - It's creamy.
- I need some more. - You want some more?
(Another spoonful!)
- Crunchy peanut butter is better. - Look at this.
(Her love for peanut butter is unstoppable.)
You'll have another piece of bread?
- Ma'am, I think... - Just fold that one.
- No. This is better. - I'm on her daughters' side now.
(Fiddling with her fingers)
My goodness.
- She eats a lot as they said. - Gosh.
- Peanut butter. - I understand her daughters now.
She spreads such a thick layer of peanut butter.
Ma'am, bravo.
(She's amazing.)
- Thank you. - Bravo.
- Don't worry. - Eat as much as you want.
I wonder how it tastes. I've never spread this much of peanut butter.
- Let's share this. - It's so good.
- Her daughters shook their heads. - The nutty taste in my mouth...
makes my tongue mellow.
- Try it. - You're craving it, right?
Mom, you're eating too much.
I know you're worried, but she seems so happy.
Yes, she does.
What if she gets sick...
because she eats like that?
It's not like she eats like this every day.
- It wouldn't harm her health. - Just 2 or 3 times a week.
- That's not too much. - She needs a break sometimes.
Exactly.
- Leave her be. - I'm sorry,
but it looks like a home shopping channel.
The package of all of these is only 39.90 dollars.
(Call us now.)
It's only 39.90 dollars.
(Please call the automated service number.)
Please call the automated service number.
Look at the camera.
(Please call the automated service number.)
Smack your lips.
(Sold out!)
- How did you feel? - I was so happy.
The way I feel when I eat delicious food...
without getting nagged at or walking on eggshells...
You two would never know.
It'd taste better if you ate with them.
Exactly.
Ma'am, say a few words to your daughters.
I know that you guys say what you say for my sake,
so I'm very grateful and try to listen to you.
However, I don't want you think of me to as the same level as you...
and consider my age when you suggest things.
Since studying gives you stress,
I will think about it.
But I want you to exercise as much as you eat.
I will visit a delicious restaurant...
- with you once a week. - Yes.
Good. Watch a movie too.
You could go shopping together.
It's a success.
Thank you.
Let's start with So Hye.
I hope you help your mom find happiness.
They could find a way...
- together. - Right.
I believe it's a worry.
People have their own standard of happiness,
so I do think it's a worry.
I think you could find...
a different way of exercising with your mom.
If you think it's worry,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Stop.
Let's see how many votes "The Two Mothers-in-law" got.
Pleas show us the result.
(Result)
The last digit is six.
(And?)
How many?
136 votes.
(136 votes)
So, "The Lonely Battle" wins.
The winner will receive prize money. Congratulations.
Until the day we are all worry-free.
Hello will continue to counsel you.
- Thank you. - Thank you.